Theta Xi Fraternity

Welcome Parents!

What is your greatest hope for your son?

He graduates.

He graduates with a strong resume.

He grows up happy.

He is respected by his peers.

He continues the legacy which you have prepared him for.

College can be the intersection of hopes and fears in life. Short term pleasure and temptations often compete with college success and post-college career goals.

Your list of hopes for your son probably did not include being a "frat guy". We agree. Being a "frat guy" is easy — but being a "fraternity man" is difficult, but much more rewarding!

We realize that 18 to 22 year old males usually do not need guidance on how to have fun —it comes naturally. However, we do realize that leadership, ethical behavior, and people skills are critical to a young man’s personal development and each takes a little more effort, planning, thought, and guidance.

Theta Xi offers its members tremendous leadership development programs not available to the average college or university undergraduate. Theta Xi’s leadership programs, commonly referred to as our All True Men Initiative, provides tools and programming for our members to develop the same leadership skills that America’s most well-respected corporations offer to their top executives.

Joining the Greek Community will enhance your son's experience at UNC Pembroke. Take the time to research our values, history and mission and see if it aligns with your family's values and your hopes for your son. We are confident that your son will benefit from a Greek experience, and especially the Theta Xi Experience!

We know that your son has made a lot of very important decisions about his future in the past few months, and choosing to join or not join a fraternity is as important as any of them. To help allay your concerns, we have compiled a list of the questions most frequently asked by parents and guardians.

Parents Organization

Parents and guardians are not only invited, but urged, to get involved with Theta Xi as members of the chapter’s Parent’s Club. At UNC Pembroke, the chapter and its alumni will be initiating the formation of a club to complement the work of volunteer alumni officers and provide another level of support, advice and counsel to your son and all chapter brothers. The role of a Parents Club is to provide parents and guardians of chapter members with regular communication regarding the activities and accomplishments of the chapter and its members. The Parents Club will also schedule weekend programs to bring parents and guardians together with their sons to meet other parents and guardians. To fill out a parent's club application, please click here.

Frequently Asked Questions

Will he have time to study, and will the fraternity have an effect on grades?

Your son will have time to study with the fraternity. During the week, we set aside one hour in the evening where the brothers will get together in the library and study. During this session, your son will have an opportunity to get academic help from our brothers if he needs it; we are always willing to help out with academic issues when needed. Additionally, our scholarship chairman keeps track of grades for each individual brother and continually insures their academic success. These steps will help insure that we will have a positive impact on your son's grades. If you son is willing to put forth the effort, we have confidence that your son's grades will be higher, especially compared to someone who is not in Theta Xi.

Do fraternities haze?

No. Theta Xi is a strictly non-hazing organization. New members and old members do the same amount of work. The associate member program does nothing that will compromise your son's morals, nor will it force him to do anything he is not totally comfortable worth doing. Theta Xi promotes leadership, team-building and brotherhood, not physical or mental harm. We believe that hazing anyone is unacceptable and completely contrary to the concept of brotherhood. In fact, Theta Xi has joined with over 20 other men's and women's groups across America to establish a 24 hour a day hotline to annonomously report concerns for hazing at any Theta Xi Chapter. The hotline is toll free and the number is 1-888-NOT-HAZE.

Theta Xi has established a core membership education program that is designed to orient him to the Fraternity’s history, organizational structure, policies and responsibilities. A summary of the program is available for your review.

Aren't all fraternities like Animal House?

No. Don't believe everything you see in the movies. The Greek system can do a lot of positive things for the community and for your son. Greek students often get higher grades than students who live in the residence halls or in individual apartments, and Greek students have a higher retention and graduation rate. A fraternity could also help your son develop leadership skills and life-long friendships. Also, the Greek community helps the entire community by sponsoring philanthropy and community service projects. Being Greek can help you to become a well-rounded person and that's what employers want to see.

Will it help my son become a better man?

Theta Xi promotes a well-rounded lifestyle. So, if your son takes advantage of the beneficial activities that Theta Xi offers, he will become a better man as a result of his membership in Theta Xi. The Fraternity also strives to provide leadership training and opportunities within the chapter and by promoting each brother’s active involvement in campus and community clubs and organizations.

Will I have opportunities to be involved in my son's college experience?

Absolutely! The fraternity hosts events of its own during UNC Pembroke's parents weekend, which occurs in September of each year. During this weekend, you'll get a chance to meet those who are involved with the fraternity, including undergraduate brothers, alumni, and chapter advisers. You'll also get a chance to participate in events with the fraternity in addition to events that the university is hosting. Other than these events, parents and family members are welcome to stop by at any time.

What if I still have questions?

If you have questions or feel uncomfortable about any of this, please get in touch with us. We would love to address your concerns and will be very honest with any questions you have for us. Thank you.